The Image of ME

Yin and Yang aren't about the supremacy of Yang (light) over Yin (dark). It is about harmonizing the two opposing forces.

The philosophy of Yin and Yang symbolizes how opposing forces have to work in harmony in order for sustainability to prevail. Light and dark, good and evil, happiness and despair, they all go hand in hand. One after the other. But this principle doesn’t just work on forces in the outside world but within humans as well. Yin and Yang also symbolize the presence of masculine and feminine forces in all of us. While feminine forces are stronger in some, masculine forces prevail in the others. However, this isn’t where it ends. There is also a balance of good and evil, bravery and cowardice, kindness and meanness, compassion and cruelty, and every other element that makes us human.

We all feel we know ourselves. Is that true? Are you sure that you are what you think you are? Think again, for there is also a balance between what you think of yourself and who you truly are. While the former is always wonderful by our standards, it is in our darkest moments that we face the latter. A you that is everything you hate.

The Dual Personality

We all enter and leave this world alone. But the time that we spend here is wasted looking for approval. Friends, family, strangers, we try to put our best foot forward, or at least our version of it, all the time. What does this lead to? The presence of a lesser known personality made up of everything about yourself that you know the world doesn’t approve of. Hatred, jealousy, despair, insecurity, all need to take a back seat when you are on stage.

“All the world’s a stage,

And all the men and women merely players;

And all the men and women merely players;

They have their exits and their entrances,

And one man in his time plays many parts”

While Shakespeare talks about the parts we play in the course of our life, this stage exposes us to a script as well, that needs to be followed. A script to help you fit in.


Happiness is a deception. It is when we are happy and things are going just as we want, that putting a façade is an easy task. Trying times expose the reality behind that mask we all wear. There never exists an equilibrium between our real and mirror image. Most of the times, the latter is stronger. This collision between our two personalities often leads to the cracking of the outer shell. Thus, comes out poison through the cracks in this shell. A poison that is so violent that not only does it engulf those around us, but our own selves as well.

The best thing to do seems to keep the mask intact. Make it strong and impenetrable. Let no one see who you are when the night is dark. The truth is, many people can do that. Very few are incapable of controlling the charade. But at the end of the day, those few are the happy ones.

The Secret to Happiness

Recently, when my shell was about to crack, a friend, on a very dark and stormy night, told me, that only those who can balance the two sides of their personality can ever be happy. It isn’t as easy as it sounds, but yes, that is the key. The problem is that we waste too much of our time pleasing others. So much, that we forget to please ourselves. The moral compass works well in most people. Following your intuition is the key. No matter how well rehearsed you are, the script can never ensure happiness.

The first step is understanding our true selves. Analyze yourself when you go through tough times. Figure out your weaknesses and turn them into your strengths. The objective is to make yourself happy and letting out your hatred and anger might not be the solution. The answer lies in being at terms with the world.

No one is a saint, and it is impossible to expect that we will ever overcome the drawbacks of humanity. That is why Yin and Yang aren’t about the supremacy of Yang (light) over Yin (dark). It is about harmonizing the two opposing forces. Accepting people for what they are, yourself, fate, and believing in a better tomorrow is the secret to happiness. In the words of Scarlett O’Hara,

“Tomorrow is Another Day”


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