Little Things that Matter
“Make the most of yourself…for that is all there is of you.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson
We are living in a world where each of us, each day, is working to get better at what we do. We want to be better cooks, better drivers, better writers, better engineers, and so on. We’re thinking about improving the ways in which we work so that we can have feats to add to our definition. And that’s good. We are aiming at getting our minds better.
But what about our hearts? How many of us are focusing on getting them better?
We are all living our lives in the ways we’re accustomed to. And every now and then, we have that enlightened conversation with someone and think about how we have grown over the years. It’s funny how during that realization we often overlook the little things that we have, could have, and can do to be those better versions of ourselves.
Let’s talk about the little changes that we can make, the little things that we can do to be a better person.
An open mind
Let’s begin with our mind since that’s something most of us are already concentrating on. What does it mean to have an open mind? Does that mean we should always keep it on display? I don’t think so. There are close to 7 billion people on this planet divided across multiple cultural, religious, and ethical beliefs. Each of those 7 billion people has their own reality. They are living, not just existing, in a reality that I may not have even thought of.
But giving my mind the freedom to be patient to learn about their reality might just help me make sense of mine. That is to say, if I open my mind to the way they think, the way they live, the way they do things, I might actually learn something that I can incorporate in my reality.
Having an open mind is thus helping me be a more accepting person. It’s giving me the opportunity to learn, know, and get insights on all things in the world including my own self. And at the same time, I am giving them the freedom to exist without judgements.
Random Acts of Kindness
Wish a good morning to the person getting you coffee, hold the door open for someone. These little things make a huge difference. When you see a smile on a person’s face and you know that you, something you did, is the reason for that, it’s the best feeling in the world.
Small, simple gestures translate to you show respect, gratitude, and appreciation. And that is a big deal. So, lend a helping hand, pay respectful compliments, listen intently, participate, contribute, donate, and you’ll have a peaceful sleep because you made someone’s day better.
The Benefit of the Doubt
Stop assuming the worst in people. You’re only destroying yourself by doing that. Here is something I have learned in life that to keep moving, you have to have faith. So, give everyone, every single person you meet, the benefit of the doubt.
When you’re not assuming that everyone is out to kill you, you’re treating them better and you’re liberating your mind of the negative assumptions it had. That’s going to make you polite, considerable, and kind—and it’s fun to have those people around.
Being on Time
Respect other people’s time. Punctuality is a productive habit but it is also the face of someone who can be relied upon. Be that person. When you’re on time, you’re considering other person’s life to be just as important as yours, you are not wasting either’s energy and, let’s say it, you are making a great impression.
Keeping your Promises
Be a person of your word. If you committed to doing something, do it. Or at least try to your very best level. Put the dishes away, call her back, help them with the assignment—it’s going to make them feel better.
By keeping your promises, you are defining the way you carry yourself. Care and show people you care. Everyone, including your own self, will feel better as a result.